Wedding Planning Advice

How to Write a Wedding Guest List

22nd April 2020

How To Write A Wedding Guest List

Looking to write a guest list? One of the first things you need to think of when planning a wedding is when to write a guest list.  Who makes the list is one of the most important things to nail down early is the number of people attending your wedding.

Once you have this all set.  It will help you set your wedding budget and look at wedding venues.  It can be a really difficult one though as there will be so many people who would love to spend the day with you.

Whether you are looking at an intimate wedding or a huge wedding then this is a place to start.

Write an “A” Guest List

First off draw up your “A” list – these are the people who you’d want with you if you had to get married first thing tomorrow.  The people you’d consider changing the date for if they couldn’t come. You’ll generally find parents, siblings and closest friends on this list.  It’s worth sending a Save the Date card or message.  Then you know for sure they’ll be able to celebrate alongside you.

Sort your “B” List

Next batch – write a “B” guest list – is the people you want to be with you, but it won’t ruin your day if they can’t come.  People like aunties, cousins, grandparents, and your wider group of friends.

Write the “C” Guest List

The “C” list is where things get tricky. These are the people it’d be hard not to invite, such as extended family, old friends you’ve not seen for ages, close work colleagues and plus ones. Budget, venue size and the general vibe you want for the day will influence how many of these people you can invite.

Finally it’s the “D” List

Finally, write the “D” guest list – the people you’re obliged to invite. This might be influenced by your parents, especially if they’re paying for the wedding. It’s where tricky decisions have to be made but ultimately it comes down to the feel you want for your day, and the amount your budget can stretch to. Generally, people understand that not everyone can be invited, so try to keep focused on what will please you and your partner, rather than trying to please everyone else.

If you need a little bit of help, Bridebook has a great online tool you can find here…

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Mike Savory Best Wedding Videographer

Mike Savory is an award-winning Wedding Videographer from the UK.